Hello.
I read this today:
http://news.bbc.co.uk/1/hi/education/4614515.stm
And I’m a bit confused about the state of things.
In case you can’t be bothered to read it (it’s not particularly exciting), it says that 1 in 5 children between the ages of 11 & 19 are being bullied by mobile phones.
Now, I do not and will not condone bullying of any form, but I have never heard of anyone being bullied by phone ever before. Admittedly I’m not actually at school, so I am unaware of many things that (mass media) surveys tell me is happening in the playground – like the vast amounts of crack-cocaine being sold between the kids, the gangs of peadophiles hanging around the school gates ready to kidnap children, not to mention the force feeding of greasy chips by the Government (nothing to do with the parents not making sandwhiches, of course), but I digress.
Now, although I don’t doubt that children’s behaviour and activities have changed over the years, I can’t believe that 20% of children are victims not just of bullying, but of a specific type of bullying.
I’m beginning to believe that the adults who compile reports are actually unaware of what real bullying is.
When I was at school, I was one of only about 6 non-white people in the entire school (in case you’re wondering, I’m a Porto/Anglo Indian/Italian chap). I got bullied pretty much as soon as I stepped through the gates. At the time, it was absolutely terrible, but looking back, I realise that I didn’t have it half as bad as some other people. I know what being bullied is like, what it feels like and also how powerless any teachers or parents are to stop it.
What I also know, however, is that when someone comes up to me and says “cut your hair and have a bath you stinking fucking hippy”, which happens from time to time, that is NOT bullying. If they came back time after time, targetting me as I walked home from work, waiting round the corner for me, THAT would be bullying.
A text message calling someone fat is not bullying. It’s mean, it’s really mean and not fair. It shouldn’t be done, but IT IS NOT BULLYING.
Sometimes peoples’ memories of things will be slightly clouded, especially children. When they were passed the piece of paper with the qestion “have you ever been bullied?” the majority would probably answer “yes”, but this doesn’t mean that their life was made a constant hell all the way through their school life. I was bullied, but I can still look at my school days as relatively happy – but like I say, some had it much worse than me.
The thing that gets me most about the ‘nanny’ culture that’s coming out is that those children who are seriously bullied, who are victims of a sadistic louts most days they are at school, are still going unheard when the kids who have merely been teased are shouting to get their voices heard and drowning out the cries of help from people who actually need it.
It’s the ones who can’t ask for help who need it the most.
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I think thats the way of things lol, As my manager once said to me, a company is like a bunch of monkeys on a christmas tree, when the one up on top looks down all he sees are smiling faces, and when the one on the bottom looks up all he sees are arseholes, Its the way of it, and it holds back buisness so much.. but hey, In my line of work its full of sexual discrimination.. my advise is if your not happy say something about it if after a while your still not happy then perhaps through no fault of your own the place isnt right for you, Its not your fault that the company you work for is full of norrow minded scum, and think of it this way, If your being victimised at work i think your probably too good for that company anyway.
just my two cents,
anyways
byeeee
i get bullied by other workers. not physical bullying, dont wanna sound like a pussy over it, but its general knock-downs all the time, at the end of the day i jus dont wanna go back
postive affirmations.forces of thoughts creat our realitys.so simple really.
at work place it all happens.
If I sit to write all of those bullies then it’s gonna take me long hrs…
The scheme which allows children to report bullying to elected older pupils who work with teachers is being rolled out to one in 10 schools in England.
The full article is found here
Sounds like a great idea to me :weee:
Do you guys think it will/won’t work?
The full article is found here
Sounds like a great idea to me :weee:
Do you guys think it will/won’t work?
peer mentoring is effective. simply put, people listen to their own better than ‘professionals’employed to tell you what to do / think
i’m involved in a mentoring project for men leaving prison and prisoners find the relationship quite profound for 3 reasons. often a volunteer mentor is the only perosn who has ever listened to them, told them they can achieve their goals. the fact that i am not paid (probation, police, social worker etc) has a real impact. also, the fact that i’ve been around the block a few times means i’m not judging or sitting on the righteous side of the fence
To the OP, well put.
There is so much hysteria about “bullying.”
Some kids will always be assholes to other kids, we need to get better at knowing when it is true bullying or an isolated incident.
lol, there’s a thread on bullying and the last post is by ‘evil fred’
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