@lola22 465421 wrote:
Me 22 years and him 26.With been together for 4 years now,but after 3 years he seem to have lost his passion, he was feeling it for awhile but after few mins he the ”thing” when down, it makes me very frustrated, i ask him why n he said that he is insecure,he have low testoteron, which it think he is still young to have that. Sometimes it makes me cry thinking that he is not into me anymore, but he keep saying he had this problem, i tried to understand, but hw,sometimes im scared to ask him to have sex with me, he would say don’t pressure him too much or that ”thing” will go down, i dont know whats the problem. Has any of you encounter this with you boyfriend?or anybody, i need to find a solution before both of us lose it all.
bear in mind in your country (my family are from Malaysia) young people are only just getting used to being alowed to openly talk about sex etc, and may have even beeen discouraged by strict parents and religion. Perhaps also there is anxiety over work? Have you talked about babies, and maybe he does not want one yet? Did his religouis background make him think sex was “dirty”?
My Dad (who was Hokkien Chinese) never had these problems (or I would not be here :laugh_at:) but it is common for us Asians to try to be “superman” and get insecure.
