Party Vibe

happens to loads of people.

there are a very few lucky raver couples but I have great difficulty with finding long-term relationships as most girls/women I meet are professional women in their late 20s – early 30s who often seem put off by the fact someone my age (33) is still doing risky stuff such as raving (even some of the the “hippy” types who claim to be open-minded!), and many just seem to consider binge-drinking as their only leisure activity…

i also can’t understand why people stay in relationships where they do not share the same interests or argue over time spent on them (without reaching a compromise) – OTOH some girls often have previous relationships where their partner was a drug user and didn’t treat them well so they are prejudiced by that negative experience…

IMO the only reason to give up raving is impending parenthood when you have to provide and look after others

its gonna be your decision though – and do you want to be locked down at 24! can’t both of you talk over why your gf doesn’t like raving? Its not as if you are going out and doing real crime like nicking motors or mugging people!

Does she want you to settle down and get ready to become a dad, or is she just insecure because of tabloid paranoia over drug users (or a previous bad experience with one)

and if you are nagged out of taking part in one hobby, what about when you are older and want to go out fishing or whatever old people do but she wants you to stay in, do both of you want to end up like a moaning old couple in a sitcom who end eventually up calling the cops to a rave out of jealousy and simmerring ill feelings?

talk it over first, but if someone who is supposed to care for you won’t tolerate a relatively non-problematic (if anarchic) lifestyle choice it may be time to move on…