it may help if describe the relationship before you were married – what prompted (or who) getting married, and why were you having doubts before?
I have unfortunatley heard of some men (and I’m sure some women ) who completely change when the ring is on their finger – for different reasons – my best mate was woo-ed, he promised her the world and was kind, considerate, fun and loving before they married, he asked her to get married etc after 2 years together, all her friends liked him too – including me –
but once married he turned into a complete and utter bastard overnight, pressured her into having a child (I know it was also her decision) didnt help out behind closed doors became very controlling and lazy, nasty words etc refusing to talk – she never told any of us til it started becoming obvious how unhappy she was and he ended up just going and leaving her a day after their babys 1st birthday – she spoke to his ex -wife in desperation to ind out if she knew what was going on – as he wouldnt talk at all or explain what was going on in his head – (him and his ex have 2 girls, married at 18 etc) and he had done exactly the same to her….. and other such stories rom other friends…
Its up to you if you want to try and work on it – I guess if you did marry him – there has to be something – but you cant change people or how they behave aand if he wont talk there really is nothing you can do….
