This is a very interesting subject that connects the mind in accordance to sexual arousal. It also brings a clear distinction between the sexes, and is very undeserving of just a ‘simple’ answer. Before I start my part of the discussion, let me state that I violently disagree with the term ‘Sapiosexuality.’ Chiefly, due to the fact that Dr. Diana Raab got the term from ‘Urban Dictionary’ (psychologytoday). Let me also state that I delve deep into this discussion, and provide a more deeper ontological aspect of this topic than what was probably intended. Nothing fascinates me more than sex, psychology and philosophy. And luckily for me, I get to utilize all three subjects in this one topic! Now then. Let’s begin:
‘Sapiosexuals’ are nothing more than sexually-charged, intelligent people who are attracted to those with similar personalities. Therefore; it makes sense that a woman who values intelligence, but is also a very sexually-charged person, would get ‘stimulated’ by talking to a man of those same qualities, (of course, sexual orientations can be varied.) Picking each other’s brains and admiring each other’s intelligence will to better sex. This makes sense (obviously) since a man/woman who ‘get off’ on deep conversation will immediately become bored, sexually, if they are stuck conversing with an intellectually deficient person.
As much as this makes sense, it is important to understand that not everybody starts off valuing intelligence in a sexual manner. If we keep people with ‘average intelligence’ as the base minimum (and completely exclude anybody below ‘average intelligence’ since they will distort the original premise), we can begin ‘pin-pointing’ certain stages where and how these feelings of arousal from deep communication come from.
Since the general assumption is: ‘women mature faster than men,’ it would make sense that women would become aroused by intelligence faster than men. Generally speaking, men are more visual sexually whereas women are more descriptive. Women always want ‘smart’ men (even for NSA), and their sexual fantasies are, most-often, very vivid, clear, and most-always contain an upstanding man. No woman, that I know of, gets aroused by shitfaced men who mindlessly walk around making a mockery of themselves. However; men would happily take home a drunken attractive woman, and attempt to have sex with her. Men (sexually immature in their early ages) mostly just want sex. However; ‘sexual progression’ in men (and women) happens soon after. This progression can also be known as ‘maturity.’
It has been my experience that the more I indulge in sexual vices, the more I begin to cherish a woman’s mind. At first I ‘just wanted pussy,’ but then I began to cherish not only a woman’s sexuality, but more importantly, her mind and the way she thought. This, of course, comes from being educated, as well as learning how to channel sexual energy into other subjects (via ‘sexual transmutation.) Rather than constantly thinking about performing cunnilingus and anulingus on a woman, I can use that same passion to learn about philosophy, psychology, politics, economics, physics; and use that ‘sexual urge’ to be more outspoken and firm with my ideologies. Because of this; if I happen to converse with an attractive woman, I can intensely admire her physical beauty while being able to channel that sexual energy into carrying on a deep conversation. If she gets ‘stimulated’ by our deep conversation, we will then know our attraction to each-other due to the way we make eye contact. What happens after that results in ‘magic.’
In conclusion, valuing intelligence, on a sexual basis for attraction, does not happen immediately. However, to coin the term ‘sapiosexual’ to describe being aroused by intelligent conversation is absurd! It would make more sense to just call it ‘maturity.’ And this ‘maturity’ can lead to very amazing ‘rough sex’ if the conversation gets heated (in a fun way, of course.) Furthermore, ‘sapiosexual’ is also known as ‘nymphobraniacs,’ and thankfully Dr. Raab agrees that its a ‘bit extreme’ to use that term. Besides, the last thing we need is a personal dating site for ‘sapiosexual’ pretentious horny people.
SOURCE: https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/the-empowerment-diary/201408/sapiosexuality-what-attracts-you-the-opposite-sex
Good topic, Mrs. Robinson!
