Party Vibe

interesting and fairly unusual to see a straight Asian male advertising such services. out of curiosity do you find yourself attracting a lot of “white european” ancestry women but often with a big age difference to yourself? whilst I do not advertise my body online and at my age have no plans on doing so; in real life encounters I’ve often found the women who get attracted to me are often very young rebellious ones (to the point I must be careful in case they are not yet 18) or those from age 50-70 (!) – but its awkward if they are too close to my own mums age (and if they have kids our instincts will mean we end up as stepdad too)

@Asianbravo 594894 wrote:

Haha, you mean you usually see bi or homosexual Asian males? I like to think of myself as exotic and different. Someone not commonly found, with different traits to explore.

its usually straight blokes looking for services, some potential pimps/escort agencies (if they are from MY or SG I discourage them from here as they can cause problems with police and unlike your post its not always 100% certain if everyone involved is doing it because they want to)

We do get LGBT users of all ethnicities but there are still greater security/reputation risks for them even in Western nations and they also have their own social networks.

Ironically in my country because Asians are seen as less “outward” and “shy” and challenge traditional gender roles males who are not obviously religious are often wrongly assumed to be gay or bi (and thus up for anything)

it is only very recently that Asians have been permitted to express their sexuality (in any form) online and it does appear there is a bit more freedom nowadays which is mostly a good thing though a shame its taken the real threat of extremism to distract the authorities from policing other forms of lifestyle choice..

@Asianbravo 594906 wrote:

That’s true. I suppose even as an Asian in my own country, I am more outspoken and liberal-minded than the rest of my countrymen. I am Chinese, and I know so many Chinese families that are tradition oriented, but I was brought up with expressive values and I have been influenced by global media as well.

my late father was from Malaysia but went to 6th form (a Catholic seminary!) in Singapore before returning to Penang and then being sent to KL as a teacher; where he met my mum through “western style dating” and even though they were married both parents didn’t approve so they had to both flee the country and move to London. Although he was more strict than some of my friends dads he was very liberal when it came to talking about sex and drugs (and was a heavy benzo user too; except he somehow had an endless script for them); and they grew up in London during the 1970s and went through a bit of a hippy stage.

Modern Singaporeans and Malaysians are a lot more liberated these days but ironically the West especially centre right politicians in UK keep saying “we want our children to grow up like those in SE Asia” and some parties like UKIP model themselves on the PAP and Barisan Nasional…

at least your countries feds and surveillance agencies (which I expect are better run than GCHQ/NSA and more gender diverse) are unlikely to give you any grief (they might steal your pics for their own purposes though :laugh_at:)

@Requiem 594963 wrote:

I’ve known a chap from Malaysia, in fact KL, and is in his late 60’s now and I if I ever even mentioned aby sort of drug use you could almost feel the disgust and horror flowing over the internet from him.

with that generation its often as much fear because SKMM (communications ministry) monitor the Internet fairly closely than real hatred of drugs; bear in mind drug use was tolerated until just after independence from colonial rule and my uncles generation remember cannabis being legal when they were teens. My late father did not like me taking illegal drugs; but had a endless script for benzos (which he somehow acquired in the 1970s) and diverted a fair bit when he worked in a London hospital. In his 30s he could take enough that would put a man twice his size to the floor, and yet be able to do advanced carpentry and even built his own portable medicine cabinet (separate to the one most people might have in the bathroom).

in the 70s we lived in this shared house in SE London and sometimes these hippy type folk would turn up and Dad would bring down his medicine cabinet and soon after everyone would be singing and playing guitars.

I think my mum explained it as “Dad’s friends had been feeling unwell, so he had some medicine for them”; it was only fairly recently I sussed out what must have been going on but in the 1970s you could get away with stuff like that..

the biggest reason a certain generation of Asians support particularly harsh laws and prohibition is because they considered UK and NL used drugs culture as a distraction technique to keep hold of their colonies; and were suspicious it was being used to cause civil wars and engineer a return to colonialism.

I’ve noticed some big changes recently such as death penalty not being used for smaller cases and even dealers getting relatively lenient sentences. Malaysia even encouraged an independent audit of their compulsory rehab centres and is looking towards a “European model” for these…

@Requiem 595074 wrote:

Yeah what I knew was based mostly on listening to him and that last bit you wrote, them havig the death penalty for drugs offenses and they use it. Didn’t open a picture of tolerance in my mind lol.

neither MY or SG executed anyone in 2012 but its literally only in the last few years things have changed. One factor is they can’t afford to have all their young people emigrate or indeed kill healthy young people with otherwise stable lives as the birth rates are declining. Another may be MY and SG are economically and politically stable today and moderate drug use doesn’t affect the Asian work ethic or family values (my Dad raised two kids, was always in employment and managed to drive a motor car for years with only one minor prang) which I wouldn’t be able to do on that much benzos!