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May 6, 2007 at 10:29 pm

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globalloon

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General Lighting wrote:

TBH I were a dad I’d only do one or two legal festivals every year (or a small rave with a TENS) and you wouldn’t see much of me at raves or even on this forum, I would be spending my time working and/or studying to get as much money to provide for the kids (or spending time with them as a family unit)

thats why I don’t want any though :laugh_at:!

seems like a slighty cold / distant version of being a parent to me…

i believe that to be a good parent you need to lead as full a life in your own right as possible, and continue to do the things you love, and find safe ways to include your children in your interests so that a) you don’t become dried up and resentful towards you kids b) so they get to know you for who you are c) to pass on your experiences and knowlegde to them and d) so you can do things ‘as a family unit’ that you all enjoy
May 6, 2007 at 10:40 pm

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General Lighting

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globalloon wrote:

seems like a slighty cold / distant version of being a parent to me…

thats exactly why I don’t want any!

I’m glad you are a proud parent but not everyone wants to get to this situation..

My own parents were pretty much hippies in their youth but had to give up a lot of hedonism and embrace Thatcher’s Britain to ensure me and my sister had a decent life, I don’t hold it against them (they were still good parents given the circumstances, as immigrants raising kids in the 70s/80s) and I know that I would have to at least calm down some of my lifestyles as a father whether I wanted to or not.

Kids are expensive – every penny counts, and market forces are powerful. Its probably not so bad with one, but a second or third child and its a big financial strain for a lot of parents.

Plus I wouldn’t feel its fair putting kids through the torture of school control structures in the UK either, and TBH to me kids are like yappy dogs, they are cute for a bit and I don’t mind them in small doses but they are high maintenance – better if they belong to someone else who takes them away and looks after them when you get tired of seeing them around :laugh_at:

I don’t currently have the desire nor the stability in life to look after them properly – I think I’ve only just emotionally matured so I’m too old anyway – and there are plenty enough kids around as it is, I’m not an endangered species so humankind isn’t gonna die out if I don’t decide to settle down and become a dad….

The way I feel about this is at least I’m honest about what I feel about “parenthood”, a lot of blokes will just leave a girl holding the baby and fuck off to the next conquest; going back to the original thread thats why you often see a lot of lone parents “abandoning” kids at raves…
May 8, 2007 at 5:45 pm

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binge

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Fair enough Globalloon. Some good comments there. Unfortunately, most parents I see at raves are not nearly so good.
May 8, 2007 at 8:54 pm

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lemonzorba

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well, there were quite a few kids at this party.

mine? well he stayed until about 10pm and then went off to bed, and then i saw him the next morning.

the other kids? depended upon their ages, but most went to bed a few hours later than you would expect a child of that age group to do so (eg my 4 yr old going to bed at 10)

mostly the kids were around in the morning dancing to the music and bringing a new energy, while the munted adults sat around. they seemed to enjoy themselves (i got the impression that a few of these kids were old hands at parties/festies anyway) and i didn’t see anything that would put me off doing it – i think just use your common sense, and i will be playing it by ear.

especially from this weekend’s experience the line between free parties and festivals can be pretty blurred anyway – is anyone out there seriously suggesting not taking kids to festies?:you_crazy
May 8, 2007 at 9:36 pm

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globalloon

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binge wrote:

Fair enough Globalloon. Some good comments there. Unfortunately, most parents I see at raves are not nearly so good.

true that

last rave i went to i wouldn’t have taken my daughter to… there were quite a few young children there, who were mostly used to lift people’s hats. apparently the under 9’s had a big stash of hats in the woods :mkay:

i think i disagree with the title of the thread… it should be “parents at parties?”
May 8, 2007 at 10:07 pm

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lemonzorba

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what?! are you serious? i shouldn’t go to parties because i’m a parent? :you_crazy
May 8, 2007 at 10:14 pm

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globalloon

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lemonzorba wrote:

what?! are you serious? i shouldn’t go to parties because i’m a parent? :you_crazy

exactly. you must be way old :groucho:
May 9, 2007 at 11:04 am

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kidz at Raves …don’t mix it up …
May 9, 2007 at 11:05 am

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binge wrote:

Fair enough Globalloon. Some good comments there. Unfortunately, most parents I see at raves are not nearly so good.

raaa too true
May 9, 2007 at 6:36 pm

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Tocooltom

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Being a teenager myself, i would say taking young kids to parties is a great idea if they are old enuf to run away from screwed up ppl, and also they know how far they can venture from you. If u get them to realise that they can only go a certain distance or to a certain palce then they should be fine, also it isnt good to let them run free alone. Dont bring kids with you unless u hav got mates who are bringing there kids, afterall, what kid will hav fun playin by themselves??!! Ive been to partys and seen groups of kids running about, but i hav never seen individuals.

Also bringing young kids to parties will encourage them to go partying when they are older, and therfore keeping our awesome hobby alive instead of it being destroyed by the Police etc!

Tom
May 9, 2007 at 11:19 pm

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omg:weee: …sorry but thats rubbish …………………
May 10, 2007 at 9:04 am

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welly

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We’ ve always taken our kids to parties, but it is all about commen sense.
Making sure they are happy, fed and they don’t have grumpy sleep deprived parents usualy works.
We also like to escape parent hood and go out without them so we can be irresponsible adults and fall over knowing we only have to worry about ourselves.
May 10, 2007 at 10:59 am

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Tocooltom

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april wrote:

omg:weee: …sorry but thats rubbish …………………

Evry1 has their own opinion!
May 10, 2007 at 3:21 pm

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Chemical needs

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I think what Tom’s saying makes sense. Although the bit about making sure they’re capable of running away is mainly an age thing? I imagine that if I had say (depending on maturity of kid of course) a 9/10 year old with me at a party, then there might be brief periods (less than an hour) where I might be able to take my eyes off ’em knowing that they’d be okay; Whereas if the kid was any younger then constant supervision would be necessary. Is that sort of what you were driving at, Tom? Or have I gone off on a tangent? :weee:

Last weekend, at about 6AM I saw a bloke weeing his kid – he looked a bit sheepish, prolly cuz he was fucked. I hope he wasn’t driving if he was!!
May 10, 2007 at 4:21 pm

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Tocooltom wrote:

Evry1 has their own opinion!

i know im sorry ….:group_hug
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