@The Psyientist 500576 wrote:
I can totally relate to this but from his perspective, considering my age I have had few sexual partners and had never felt any confidence in the bedroom. I started working with a woman significantly older than me who I believed to be gorgeous but well out of my league. However we instantly clicked and rapidly became best friends. She was very open about her active sex life when questioned and I found her amount of experience and seeming expectation rather intimidating. Although this part may not apply to you if you don’t intend on moving forward with you’re relationship but I explained how I really liked her and wasn’t interested in casual sex, fortunately for me she felt the same and saw my potential so ceased contact with all former lovers. Admittedly the first few times we had intercourse I was extremely nervous and had trouble remaining hard. After a few weeks of practice my confidence grew massively and were having the most amazing sex, 2 years later we still are having amazing sex and are in love.l
Ah this is really nice, good for you! Haha yeah I think it’s too easy to kind of assume that past a certain age/amount of experience, guys just don’t get performance nerves, but obviously that’s not the case. It’s difficult to know what he genuinely wants out of the arrangement because he’s quick to comment on other girls’ attractiveness and talk about chatting girls up when he’s out…and yet he acts very much like a boyfriend when we hang out. Personally I just see it as we get on really well and I’d be open to getting a bit more serious in time, but equally am happy for it to remain a FwB deal. Just got to keep building his confidence and hope that he opens up a bit more I guess.
It’s good to hear from other guys that have had similar issues; really clears up some of the things I was concerned about, so thanks!
