Party Vibe

This is a decision that a person can only make for themselves.

You can tell them you dont like their behaviour on a particular chemical but you cant force them to give it up. That is their choice and cannot be coerced. They have to want to give it up.

If they choose not to give up the chemical in question [whatever it may happen to be] you are, to my mind, limited in your choices as to what you can do about it yourself to putting up with it, negotiating a middle ground with them or leaving them. Stark but there it is.

Agreed.

Grange hill style = just say no :love:

I personally wouldnt. My other half is addicted to weed. It is something that doesnt bother me as long as he has the mony to do it. I prefer drugs when i go out so i can take or leave them. It works for us but i do think it could have negative consequences in some peoples relationships. :love:

I have to say i’m not sure – but if I’m honest the answer is probably not as at the end of the day I have taken and enjoyed taking drugs for as long as I can remember and its a part of who I am. Having said that if my currrent partner was to ask me and was adamant about it then i’d have a big decision to make as I would not want to lose her over it but couldnt see me realistically managing it as its how I get my enjoyment in life. Thankfully I know she would never make that request as she does them to a lesser extent too and knows and accepts me for who I am. The only time that I could see that changing is if kids become involved as I think that would make her want to stop – and much as I’d like to say it would do the same for me in reality I have to say it probably wouldn’t!

Nope… Been doing it over half my life, and have enjoyed, and am still enjoying my life immensely.

Always made it clear at the start of any relationship that I’m a total substance fiend, and have done so since I started taking them (at 15).

IMO, that’s the way I am, and the only person who has a right to enforce change in me, is me. I wouldn’t dream of trying to change my partner (after all, why did we get together in the first place if we wanted each other to change???), and expect the same in return….

Seen too many relationships where one or other have gone into it thinking “I can change him/her”… They always fail horribly (usually because the one who wanted change doesn’t like the result :you_crazy:you_crazy:you_crazy)

If I wanted to change in the first place, then I might, but tbh if that was the case, I’d most likely have done it already and they wouldn’t need to ask, as I don’t believe in doing things that I don’t enjoy unless I have no choice….:wink:

So yeah, I’d be in the telling them to get bent camp…:wink::wink::wink: