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Girl, I’ve been goin thru almost the exact same thing.. I found my man in forums he was hiding. Talkn bout almost the same thng as u.. You may wana tt hm.. My man found me snoopin, which he had to get ovr aft the shit I found hm writing..I have been w my man for almst 7 years..we have gotten ovr it but it is definitely hard To trust him now, even though I knw hed never cheat..when I found that it was almost like he did cheat..for me @ least, I love my bf n well get thru it but it’s still hard..if I were you I’d tt him, tell hm how u feel..he obviously care about u or you wouldn’t b togethr. In my xperience almost all guys look @ porn and if u find I that don’t hold on to that guy like there’s no tomorrow.. Hope I helpd!

@Sconnie420 462731 wrote:

Girl, I’ve been goin thru almost the exact same thing.. I found my man in forums he was hiding. Talkn bout almost the same thng as u.. You may wana tt hm.. My man found me snoopin, which he had to get ovr aft the shit I found hm writing..I have been w my man for almst 7 years..we have gotten ovr it but it is definitely hard To trust him now, even though I knw hed never cheat..when I found that it was almost like he did cheat..for me @ least, I love my bf n well get thru it but it’s still hard..if I were you I’d tt him, tell hm how u feel..he obviously care about u or you wouldn’t b togethr. In my xperience almost all guys look @ porn and if u find I that don’t hold on to that guy like there’s no tomorrow.. Hope I helpd!

Sconnie we have practically identical stories. I got rid of him. After catching him one last time I gave him two weeks to pack his shit and get out.

When all he is looking forward to is his next online chat or sex email from some chick then its time to go.
Mine too was defensive, but what he was writing and what he was recieving was so porno that it was too much for me. He told me he loved me and that he needed his “dark side” as I was his angel.
What a fucking load of shit.

Even broken up and further down the track when I was leaving London to live in Sweden with my current partner he was still begging me not to leave and give him one more chance.
No way.
We were together for a long time and I thought we were really happy. We had everything and had travelled all around the world.

But the bottom line was that he was a lying, sick fucker. It broke my heart.
One girl he was in contact with he had been in contact with her for 8 months! Even going as far as calling her, by stopping at those call places you find on the high street. (she was not in the UK)
I emailed her pretending to be him asking for her number.
She gave it and I rung her.
She told me everything. Without talking to her I would have probably believed more of his lies.

Relationships like these will fail. When one partner does things like this behind the others back, only hurt can be the result.

Get out while you can!

A friend of mine was engaged and even had the wedding venue (church) booked etc and she turned the printer and computer on one day and it started printing off a load of porn, and then she went ‘snooping’ and found out he was on lots of sex forums looking and contacting coupes for sex in hotel rooms, and having lots of online sex with girls – she did the same and contacted one of the girls who had been sending him naked photos and thought he was single – the thing is she thought by commiting to someone it was going to be a monogamous relationship – they split up and it ended straight away as it was not what she was into.

My ex used to use lots of porn, and it really upset me mainly because he didnt share this (it was all hidden and ‘secret’) and he appeared to prefer to wank off to this then have (me ) naked in bed and actual sex, and I took it personally and it didnt last in the long run, but it did go on and on – and it just seemed easier to put up with it then the trauma of sorting out the mortgage / selling etc and it was the secretiveness and lying that did me in – also the lots and lots of other problems in the relationship that were going on…….

and anther friend found her – then long tern partner was on sex chat rooms as he leant her his phone when her’s stopped working and a specific word kept coming up on predictive text – which she then googled and it came up on sex chat rooms and he was wearing her under wear and clothes and saying he was a transexual looking for local sex…..

so lots and lots of stories of poeple doing this – and usually the relationship is already over, or the two have different ideas of what they want / expect / boundaries are in a relationship

now days i wouldnt wait so long or put up with the shit I did,

I would suggest having an open conversation and if he isnt prepared to – I’d suggest the relationship is pretty much over and not worth continuing

but if he is just acceoting the texts and being a ‘boy’ as he is worried about what his friend will think than maybe he needs to reevaluate his priorites, and you wont know til you ask….

wishing you happiness in the long run