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  • Okay so I just joined this forum, and I’m probably going to look like an idiot for asking this question but so far I haven’t been able to talk to anyone about it because nobody has been in this kind of situation before. So, about a week ago, I went to my first rave. I fell in love with it. The environment, the people, the music, the oneness and just the connectedness you feel with everyone, the drugs (although not the most important, still a good factor to it). I was rolling all night along with my boyfriend. My boyfriend has been to raves before but never one this big. It was our first rave together. We love each other very much. At this rave, we were together for about 30 mins total throughout the whole night, it lasted about 7-8 hours. We ended up making out with other people. He got more touchy-feely with other girls but I can say I was more touchy-feels than I normally am too. He ended up touching on a girls vagina, but he took twice as much mdma than me. I need advice on this. We are normally jealous people when we’re sober, so this was a weird night for us. We love raves so completely cutting raves out of the picture is almost not an option for us but we’re wondering if we should to avoid future conflict in the relationship? Or should we give each other a “free pass” every time we go to a rave? I am a pretty open minded person but I just can’t be okay with either of us doing things with different people. The only way that seems like a good idea is when I’m on mdma. I just need feedback. Thank you all <3

    MDMA is the “love drug”, the flood of serotonin in your brain will usually nullify any “no-nos” that would automatically be triggered when you’re sober. That’s why you feel that you might be willing to do things that you might not consider doing normally. Maybe you should discuss this with your boyfriend when the both of you are sober, and come to a mutual understanding of what’s ok and what’s not when you’re on ecstasy. Maybe not a total free pass but drawing a line at whatever you feel you could accept.

    No need to give up raves! And no need for the total free pass. Trust me, you’ll still have loads of fun and you can save all that sexual excitement for when the both of you get together for some lovin on Es!!

    Trust each other that you’ll watch out for each other and ….. go to the next rave and enjoy your youth!!

    Theres a little bit of truth when on something that alters your mind (If you want to call it mind altering). From E pills to tylenol. Its how you react to that and people around you as well.

    But you shouldn’t really focus on the drug part of it/or maybe you should. Let me explain……

    Maybe your boyfriend (since he has been at parties before you) cared enough for you to actually do that. It’s like going out to a forest or something (…the “wilderness”), and its what you get out of it. You have to ask your self (what did you get out of it), and not really tell us.

    You seemed to have enjoyed these events though. Maybe you should also get to know that certain dj’s mixes or even get to know people that throw those events and introduce them to people you met at parties/or bring them to more of their events. It seems like you enjoyed yourself, maybe others you know/met should continue/be introduced to that event. It should help you make a decision.

    Maybe you should also have a chat with him at one of these parties, maybe at a party/dj set/event that you both agree upon. Just maybe a setting where both of you have agreed on an experience based on something that you both enjoyed (for the first time?) “on your own”. Mutual agreements are at a party are a perfect seting.

    (For all you know….you may never really have “gotten back” after that 30 minutes….and maybe its time to meet up with each other again).

    Now, if you want to base it on drugs, keep in mind there are alot of factors with different people. Some people may have used their excitement before their experience starts or maybe they are at an anti-climactic situation and they are just all smiles in your direction, or they are having a terrible time with what they are taking and they are just a great person and they are carrying everything on that. So its up to you to decide on your experiences with them…… usually the ones that “guided” to be where you are now are your best inspirations also and you should be into what they like also.

    I hope this helps…..ultimately we don’t want to lose people we made friends with so you should have that serious talk with him based on certain terms. It can be at a party or maybe at home/ a hotel/ etc. , and it shold be just the 2 of you until you resolve this uncomfortable situation. You should take your time and be honest about it (if you really care for him, try and find out his experiences on his own….his dj/his event/ his music/ his experience/ etc. )

    I can go on/be more specific but written words can be so restraining. Keep in mind also that you mentioned that you guys are “jealous people” and that wasn’t the case…since technically he is a “guide” also.

    Ok I got tons more to say, but you get the idea. (:

    Theres a little bit of truth when on something that alters your mind (If you want to call it mind altering). From E pills to tylenol. Its how you react to that and people around you as well.

    But you shouldn’t really focus on the drug part of it/or maybe you should. Let me explain……

    Maybe your boyfriend (since he has been at parties before you) cared enough for you to actually do that. It’s like going out to a forest or something (…the “wilderness”), and its what you get out of it. You have to ask your self (what did you get out of it), and not really tell us.

    You seemed to have enjoyed these events though. Maybe you should also get to know that certain dj’s mixes or even get to know people that throw those events and introduce them to people you met at parties/or bring them to more of their events. It seems like you enjoyed yourself, maybe others you know/met should continue/be introduced to that event. It should help you make a decision.

    Maybe you should also have a chat with him at one of these parties, maybe at a party/dj set/event that you both agree upon. Just maybe a setting where both of you have agreed on an experience based on something that you both enjoyed (for the first time?) “on your own”. Mutual agreements are at a party are a perfect seting.

    (For all you know….you may never really have “gotten back” after that 30 minutes….and maybe its time to meet up with each other again).

    Now, if you want to base it on drugs, keep in mind there are alot of factors with different people. Some people may have used their excitement before their experience starts or maybe they are at an anti-climactic situation and they are just all smiles in your direction, or they are having a terrible time with what they are taking and they are just a great person and they are carrying everything on that. So its up to you to decide on your experiences with them…… usually the ones that “guided” to be where you are now are your best inspirations also and you should be into what they like also.

    I hope this helps…..ultimately we don’t want to lose people we made friends with so you should have that serious talk with him based on certain terms. It can be at a party or maybe at home/ a hotel/ etc. , and it shold be just the 2 of you until you resolve this uncomfortable situation. You should take your time and be honest about it (if you really care for him, try and find out his experiences on his own….his dj/his event/ his music/ his experience/ etc. )

    I can go on/be more specific but written words can be so restraining. Keep in mind also that you mentioned that you guys are “jealous people” and that wasn’t the case…since technically he is a “guide” also.

    Ok I got tons more to say, but you get the idea. (:

    Just do what feels right, your relationship is doomed to fail though blatantly.

    Your glass is either half full or half empty.

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