Party Vibe

I think a lot of normal is based on your own home life (both in the context of relationships with your partner and as a whole with just friends).

Ultimately, how you interact with your family plays a massive part in how you are influenced as a person, and really normal should be whatever feels comfortable. Me and my girlfriend almost constantly bicker, but we wouldn’t work any other way. Because of the way we bicker, we can easily enough express our fustration with each other when we are genuinely annoyed without it being taken to heart by the other person.
On the same score though, if I hadn’t been like this from day 1 though then it wouldn’t have been normal even though I am the same person.

Ultimately, it needs to be something you’re both comfortable with and something that you are both used to, in that it is something that has happened naturally and doesn’t feel forced. this is something that’s different for every person. There’s no hard and fast rule.

I think the biggest influence though has been a combination of my sister and her husband and my current relationship, and only my current one because it’s the first time that I realise my paranoia about her cheating is exactly that – paranoia.

For me its just a close bond which is evolutionary behavior programmed into me.
You find a partner and you respect and look after them and they stick around.

Respecting them means letting them be happy and healthy I suppose.
People have different likes and dislikes in life so that may mean polygamy, its not my cup of tea but if a couple enjoys that who am I to undermine that as a relationship ?
Some woman want to stay at home and let their partners work, again if that works for them then fair enough.

@korno 531213 wrote:

The first thing that pops into my head when i think of a ‘what normal relationship is’ i automatically think of superficial happiness in front of others, and emotional trauma behind closed doors.
I think the media, such as watching too much telly at some points in my life plays a huge part in that.

In my experiences there’s less emotional trauma behind closed doors for me. Maybe it’s my p0lygon bubble…. or worse my p0ly bublé