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Guy w/some unique baggage looking for a woman I think I'm a pretty good catch, problem is I have some baggage that is making it difficult to find a woman. Let me tell you a little about me, maybe I'll find a great girl here or at least some good advice.
I'm 39 in a few months, 5'6" and about 125lbs. I have an a.a. and b.s., graduating with national honors in my field of study. I have my own place in the country (U.S) and I have no real debt to speak of. I have a good sense of humor and enjoy laughing and making purple laugh. Some of the things I like are music, old cars and hotrods, and getting together with friends for a few beers.
I'm a romantic, I like the quiet date nights of just being together without any distractions. I have to say the sex drive is still like the teenage years. There are a few more kinks and fetishes I have found as I aged however. I guess everyone says this but I really do still feel like I'm about 21. This is just a little bit about me and my personality.
Now the baggage. I have a rare form of M.D. I don't need any help getting around or doing things, but there are some things that are a little difficult or I can't do them (like running and lifting heavy things). It also affects my ability to work, right now I'm unemployed and not sure when or if I'll be able to work full time again. Like I said I don't have any special needs but I do have some days that are tougher than others.
So this is a little about me and my problems. It's been too long since I've had a good relationship and I need to find one again. I really love being with and having a woman to share things with. So if there is anyone interested or someone with some killer advice or knows where to look give me a message and let me hear from you.12
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Dates Gone Wrong Went camping :cloud9: with some friends recently and i met this older guy who lives locally. He asked me out on a date, i thought, wow nice one especially as it been ages since i have been on a date, and here was this guy asking me out when i have been through the wars recently and was super messy from days of enjoying long nights by the camp fire :bounce_ci . Anywayz I was well pleased and got all excited and shite... :oh_god: , there was me hoping that life was gonna throw me some roses for a change :bounce_g: , but damn i got back from a date from hell last night and boy do i regret that this guy lives locally. He told me that he had a drinking problem but flippin heck i think he should have mentioned he was proppa schitzo :crazy_fre . I have been to parties in London where i have partied all night on my own with a bunch of strangers and some pretty dark characters but i can honestly say that i have felt safer there than i do in my own street. I feel like such an ass for being so blown away by the offer of a date :cry: . and not keeping my usual guard up. Damn i think i need to find myself a dog for some of that unconditional love and protection :bounce_g: . Peace.123
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Love this girl, but… Without getting too detailed, here's a little background on my girlfriend and I.
We started dating a few years ago, when I was 17 and she was 16. She was the first really cute girl I'd ever been with and I'd never done anything more than making out before her and neither had she. So we both lost our virginity a few months in, things were going great. She seemed pretty sexual and curious for the first 6 months or so, because all of it was new to her. We didn't have sex that often because we didn't have anywhere private to do it, but when we got a chance we took it.
After the excitement wore down, she stopped being as interested in sex. Her libido has never been that high, and I have always been the kind of guy who needs to masturbate once a day or I feel all pent up and have a lot of tension. It got to where we were doing it about once ever 1-2 weeks, which isn't that much considering we saw each other at least 3-4 days each week. I know it wasn't me, because I didn't put any pressure on her (she never complained of that) and I always offered to please her however she wanted and made sure what I was doing was really good for her. When we did have sex she would generally say it was really good and orgasmed well over half the times we did it.
We broke up for about 6 months when I went to college (well, she dumped me because she got tired of not seeing me more than every other week). She had sex with another guy a few days after dumping me, and had a short thing with him but that was it. I made out with a couple girls over that time, but nothing sexual. We ended up getting back together this past summer.
In general, our relationship is pretty healthy. There are some problems but nothing really as big or problematic for me as the sex thing. She doesn't really see it as a problem because I am available for her to have sex with whenever she wants, so her needs are always met. I tell her that I'm horny all the time and she generally says its not her responsibility to please me, and that she'll do it if she feels like it (which is rare). Typically, we will have sex about every 4th time or 5th time we are together, although I attempt to initiate it as often as possible, generally once a day I'll start trying to make out with her and feel her up a bit to see if she bites. She typically doesn't catch on, or says she's too tired, or quickly is no longer in the mood if ANYTHING disrupts the foreplay. She has high stress levels and is the kind of person who is always on edge, so I've tried destressing her as much as possible. I give her massages when i sense she is tense, and continually suggest she start some form of exercise or yoga or anything really. How do I lower her stress levels when she seems so resistant to change?
Sex to her is also not about pleasing me, or if it is, it seems like an afterthought. Even if she knows I'm horny, if she isn't horny herself, there is usually nothing I can do. She will occasionally give me hand jobs, but almost never gives blow jobs (two full blow jobs in a 3 year period, although occasionally she'll do it for about 10 seconds as foreplay if i beg her). Furthermore, she is grossed out by cum and has never let it touch her, meaning i've never cum anywhere on or in her. The blow jobs she gave me she finished me with her hand and always makes me cum on my chest or in a condom. She says it makes her want to gag. I'm not sure if she sees pleasing a man as a submissive action that would make her feel inferior (she has a lot of feminist views in general) or if she just doesn't care all that much. I just don't want to go through my early adulthood basically missing out on a great sex life. At the same time, I do love this girl. She was my first real girlfriend, we get along great most of the time, and when we don't it often has to do with me being all tense and pent up from my advances being rejected or not having busted in a couple days.
I don't want to be the asshole who uses bad sex as a reason to break up with someone, and I don't want it to come to that, but I don't know what to do. Maybe I can get some ladies' opinions on this as well? What should I do?
It's not even that I need her to have sex with me every single day, but I just can't handle being rejected 70+% of the time and never having my needs recognized.12
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How does interracial dating NOT make you a racist? I think it is one of most annoying and sensitive topics. I don't see how who you date proves you aren't a racist. I know plenty of white girls who date black men that hate black women. I knew white and Mexican interracial couple that hated black people. No offense interracial dating is one those things people do to prove their not NARROW-MINDED. It's interesting plenty of people claim to be colorblind because they inter-racially date yet most of them would not date a particular race...12
Anyone used a dating app? Curious to get see if anyone else uses dating apps to find hook-ups and fast, no-strings fun.
I've been using a free app called LocalSin on my iPhone for a few months and as I travel a lot with work, it's been a godsend finding a quick date around wherever I am. Think a map filled with xxx marks the spot!
The last version had a bug which could b annoying but its now been fixed.
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when you win without lowering yourself.
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Start making platonic relationships with as many women as possible, old,
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and lose your confidence. Confidence is a quality that women are extremely
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realizes she made a big mistake. And satisfaction comes when you meet
someone so much better, you are glad the ex is gone. After all, if you are
seeking revenge, how great could she really have been in the first place!
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My ex has not initiated sending me a personal message in the month since he decided his feelings for me were "complicated" and sent me a breakup e-mail. For background info, basically, he was married for 19 years; his wife cheated on him; he has been divorced for 15 years; and he erected emotional barriers/defenses.
He has forwarded me a few humorous/political e-mails and liked/commented on some of my Facebook statuses, especially in the last few days. I have not initiated contact, except for one time when I slipped up. Other than that, he hasn't heard from me. I've been staying busy. I'm fairly certain he knows I've just started dating again. I know for a fact he isn't seeing anyone.
Yesterday, though, a month after the breakup, he sent me a private, personal Facebook message: "For what it's worth, I feel bad about the situation, and I'm sorry."
I responded by saying, "You made your decision, and that's fine. Water under the bridge. I'm getting on with my life. There is no malice, nothing to be sorry about." I asked him if he would gather some books he wanted to me leave at his house last time I was there and put them on his front porch Wednesday before he gets home from work. (They're out-of-print local history photo books, and I sure as hell want them back. I asked for them two weeks ago, and he said he'd get them to me but hasn't.) He responded, saying he would leave them on the porch Wednesday.
Why are his intentions in telling me a month later that he feels "bad"? (I'm not a counselor or a priest, by the way.) What did he expect me to say to his message? What does he want from me? Is this a ploy for reconciliation? Or just an egotistical attempt to expunge guilt?
Single guy looking for romance Hi, I have brown curly hair and brown eyes. I am a sensitive, caring personality type and a bit of a hippy. I like music, film, reading and writing.
Viagra. Where to keep it when out and about? I'm looking for a more secure to carry my viagra when out and about. I have the pill fob but have been questioned or caught too many times with that damn thing.
Anyone have a better solution? Thanks
Any girls from salt lake city utah on here Hello all, my wife and I are seeking a single bisexual girl in the salt lake city Utah area, that is down to enjoy an evening with a little weed,a little speed (meth), and if all goes well, then an amazing ffm sexual experience.. hopefully this works, my wife and I have been trying to find a partner for a couple years now but just haven't found one that we can be open with both sex, and drugs... Be safe out there and remember safe drug use is as important as safe sex, know your drugs, and needles only cost 15 bucks for a 100ct box at Wal-Mart, please don't re-use, or share those squirt guns lol
