Sadly this is one of the stories of my life, happened to me several times always with same outcome… I wish it weren’t the case as I grow kinda attached to the girl because I get with them in hopes they’ll be with me.
So anyway, I’m 22 dating a 26 year old chick who’s with a “sweet guy” that wants to marry her but the intimacy isn’t there. We’ve been having regular sexual encounters and often for 4 months now. She says she loves me and wants me to be her boyfriend but the age thing really kills her and the guy and her just bought a house together (they bought it right before meeting me, and moved in after a month of dating me).
So she daily calls me and texts me how much she loves me and how difficult it is to keep it a secret and we stop talking after she gets off of work and parks her car in front of her house.
I feel I’m being used mainly for sex and emotional support. We click way better than she does with the guy and she says it’s no contest with who’d she pick if she were single, but the thing holding her back is the history and the promise she has from the guy of marrying her. He really wants to marry her and settle down, and the guy is loaded with money. Me, not so much, just a bright future hopefully.
We’ve tried breaking it off several times, only to get back with each other a day or two later. She’ll cry upon breaking it off and swears she hasn’t had sex with him all this time, and I can feel that she hasn’t when down there..
But today she posted a photo of him (just him, making a face) on her instagram that really ticked me off especially when she spilled how much she misses me and is coming over tomorrow.
Should I just try to detach myself emotionally and continue this while looking for another girl or try to win her over still? In terms of matching emotionally and personality wise, we’re at a 95/100, just the age (place in life, settling down etc) and money thing (she says it’s not money, but would miss the perks) is the issue. Not to fuck around but people that know her are like wtf when they compare her bf to me, I modeled and the dude is just w/e… I’m humble about my appearances but this relationship just drove me over the top and I admit it to myself at this point, don’t mean to be a douche.
Sorry for the long read. Thank you for reading this.
Edit: Fucked up part was when I was growing up I was nerdy and was always the nice guy and used to get upset when the girls always wanted the douches just to fuck. Now I’m the douche and know what it’s like on the other end, difference is my nice guy background makes me want to make her into a gf..
