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I lost my last friend today.
At the beginning of the year, I had three friends. One whom I'd never met, but still considered one of the people I'd been closest too. I gave him advice on relationships, we shared a hobby, and I regularly spoke to him about the boy I had a crush on.
After a while he began to pressure me to send him a picture of me, I hate the way I look, so I turned him down every time. Then eventually, as a joke, I sent him a picture of Andrew VanWyngraden. After I told him I was lying (I didn't even let it go on for an hour). He stopped talking to me.
The next day I tried to carry on as though nothing had happened, the first thing he said to me was. "Why are you a liar?"(He has a hatred for liars after him and his GF broke up, turns out she was a compulsive liar) I told him that I didn't know, it really depends on how much thought you wanted to put into it. he said okay, and that was the last time we spoke.
My other friend was one that I had met twice before. I tend to keep more of a distanced thing with my friends. Ever since we first spoke, I'd done nothing but try to help her with her every problem. She thought she was bipolar, she's been going through rough spots with her boyfriend, she has a terrible relationship with her mother, her parents were divorced, her father physically abused her father, her mother emotionally abused her, she loved her father regardless. One day I made a joke about her relationship, in bad taste. Since then, we haven't spoken, and she had her best-friend harass me via text.
The last friend, and the one I hate the most, (I harbour no hatred for the others, and miss them) and I loved the most. Was someone I first met last summer. He'd been going out with with a friend of mine, no big deal, I did my best to help him through it, my friend dumped him for another guy. Then we stopped talking at the end of last summer, we started talking again near Halloween. Things weren't too bad, until last week. He suddenly stopped talking to me after I had been asking some personal questions. (Wow I really am bad at this whole "people" thing, aren't I?) He explained that the last time he stopped speaking to me was because he was too emotionally devastated to talk.
Over the week, I'd been trying to comfort him as such, even though he wouldn't respond. I tried to say that I was hoping he was okay. Today, he just got a new boyfriend. He was happy, then out of the blue, his girlfriends starts sending messages to me on facebook. We talk a little, he asks me if I am his boyfriend's friend. I say yes, he tells me to stop messaging his boyfriend, because he finds me creepy. Turns out, he was actually ignoring me on purpose, and those questions hit alot closer to home than he was willing to admit. So that was the last of my friends gone.
Here's the real kicker, we'd repeatedly told each other how much we loved each other (as friends).
It really seems like no-matter what you do for someone, they'll still stab you in the back for the most minor of things.
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January 19, 2016 at 9:42 am
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Looking For Advice About Letting My Boss Sleep With My Wife
I am not sure if this is the right website I should be asking this but I found this place through google looking for sex advice. I am 45 years old, my wife 40, and have been married for 19 years now. We have 3 children and have a pretty good marriage. We have always been faithful to each other and get along pretty well most of the time.
I work as a Rep/Sales for a small to medium sized company for the past 12 years that I played a large part in getting off the ground and becoming what it is today that a friend of mine started .I have made a very good salary because I have played such a big part in the companies success. My friend sold the company this past Dec to retire and now I have a new supervisor that is 26 years old and pretty much knows nothing about our business.
In Feb, he basically told me they were gonna have to let me go that they could not afford to keep me on anymore and he cut my salary then by 32k. This has put both my wife and I in panic mode because of the kids and our financial obligations. I would look for another job but i wouldnt make a third anyplace else what I do now, even with the pay cut.
Anyhow, to get to the point he kept telling me he would do everything he could to try to help me out and keep me on..that it was coming from above him to let me go. So he text me one weekend and more or less asked if he could sleep with my wife whom he had only meet a handful of times when she came by the office. So to the point, my wife and I went back and forth but in the end she agreed to sleep with him and has done so 3 times in all since Feb.
He never speaks about it in person, only through text. He is not a bad looking guy and is newly married so I dont know why he wants this so much. My wife is a very attractive 40 and is fit but not what I would consider adventurous in bed. Now he is asking that she sleep with him once a week because they are putting so much pressure on him from above to let me go and that it would be a big favor to him. I have not told my wife this yet.
We have already started multiple fights between us but in the end she was the one who said it was better for her to sleep with him than for us to loose our income. He is also insisting that she do anal sex, which is something we dont do, never have, and dont see the point in.
Im not sure how we got this far into this...and we are saving up as much as we can now...but ive got so much to weigh here as far as loosing my job, the stress its putting on our marriage..etc.
Any advice would be greatly appreciated. Thanks
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January 19, 2016 at 9:39 am
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Shaved, neatly cut or wall to wall carpet?
So, what do you prefer?
Shaved, neatly cut or wall to wall carpet?
I would like to post some before and after pictures, but I'll probable get sacked :devil_wag
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December 16, 2015 at 11:51 am
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Really like the guy; not attracted to his body
So, I started seeing this new guy, who is funny, sweet, smart, and interesting.
We get along really well even though he's almost 9 years older than me.
The problem is his body. He told me that he used to be fat a few years ago and then he suddenly lost a lot of weight without changing anything in his diet or lifestyle (male bulimia?) I really like him and we've made out a bunch, but when he takes off his shirt, I'm grossed out. He's skinny and flabby, possibly with a beer belly, and chooses to be!
Although he admitted that he thinks he has "a body of an old man's," he doesn't feel the need to work out because "there are more important things in life than to spend your time at a gym." I suggested it's healthy but he feels comfortable about the way he looks. He's 29 and perfectly able; it's not like he has a disability that doesn't permit being fit.
I really want to have sex with him and I wish I didn't get so turned off but I'm not able to get aroused looking at him like that. Not to sound vain, but I work out regularly and like to keep fit.
I reeeaaalllllly like him and I don't want this to be an issue... I also don't want to hurt his feelings and tell him that his body repulses me. Turning off the light doesn't help because then I just feel his wiry body... and it might seem weird that every time he takes off his shirt, I want the light off. I don't think I'm being unreasonable.
WHAT SHOULD I DO???
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August 17, 2015 at 4:13 am
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Cuckold?
Ok, so I have been with my GF for over 4 years now and everything has been great for the most part. For the past year we have been living in different cities but still see each other a decent amount (1 or 2 weekends a month) and talk every if not ever other day.
Over the past several months I started getting a weird vibe from her. She has always had a lot of close guy friends which I've never been thrilled about but whatever. However, she has started talking about one in particular a lot which is weird cause I don't care and I don't want to constantly hear about "how cool" etc ____ is and I make it known that I don't want to hear about it. But now I've been noticing she talks to him a ton text/snapchat etc. --Like more than she does me which is very annoying.
The last time I went to visit her I stayed in to study and hang with her and it was my understanding that that was the plan for the night. Then around 9 she starts texting and then starts changing and says she going to her friends party just for a little bit. Assuming that meant "we" were going I said "well I kinda wanted to just hang with you and really need to study tonight". She responded yeah I know that's ok you just stay here and I'll go for a hour or so, it's _____'s birthday and I just need to make an appearance.
So she leaves and I stay there and hours pass and she's not back. After a while I started texting then calling and got no answers. Eventually she sends a vague incoherent text saying she will be back in 30 min (at about 1145-midnight).
At about 1-130 she still wasn't back and wasn't answering and I ended up going to bed shortly after. The next morning when I woke up she was making breakfast and her guy friends that she clearly likes was sleeping on the couch. It was totally awkward and he left right after he woke up. When I asked her about it/everything about the night before she claims she got back around two, she drove her friend home but he was locked out of his apartment so she said he could sleep on the couch at her place.
She claims she slept in bed with me but I know that it is a lie because I would've have woke up and then she switched her story to that she fell asleep on the chair in the living room while they were watching TV after they got back... Again I would have heard the TV and got up. That day we went to get lunch and two of her girl friends i have never met joined us. Upon being introduced one said to my gf "so this is the cuckold huh and chuckled" not knowing what she said I said What? and she said nothing giggling - it was really weird.
To wrap this up when I left town later that day and got home and I searched Cuckold and I'm still not entirely sure I get what it means but either way it doesn't sound good. I called her out on it and on all this bull shit with her guy friend and she claims she doesn't know why her friend said the cuckold thing and it must of been some joke or something (she basically made no sense) and that she never has done anythign with her guy friend and never will and she only wants to date me etc etc but she also was contradicting saying she wants to see where her friendship with that guy goes etc ... so IDK I'm like what F$%* does that mean. * Also, I recently have noticed she hardly ever wants to have sex when we are together----
Is she sleeping with this guy? am I a cuckold? is she trying to make me a cuckold?
WTF is a cuckold? What should I do? Should I do anything?
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June 27, 2015 at 12:16 pm
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To swing or not to swing?
I have been seeing a man for the last 4 months and I really thought that he could be the one. Before we started dating we talked about what we want in a relationship and I told him that swinging and play parties were a big party of my sexuality and my perfect relationship would incorporate that. He agreed he felt the same and about a week later we started dating.
At this point I said I know we'd talked about swinging and stuff but it was important to build up trust and a connection to each other before we started to play. Once again he agreed with me and we started on what had got to be the best relationship of my life.
Now here's the sticky bit...
Two nights ago the topic of swinging came up and it came out that it's not really his thing and not an option for us. I was shocked and didn't really know what to say so I left it alone cos fights on Valentine's Day are to be avoided and would spoil our otherwise perfect evening.
Now I'm feeling as if I was tricked into being in a relationship with him because he lied about his preferences to keep me happy. I don't know if giving up that part of myself is something I can do but the thought of losing the man is just as terrifying. I'm REALLY stuck.
Any advice would be greatly appreciated
xx
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June 29, 2014 at 2:35 am
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Japanese girls – what to do
Hello,
My names Paul I am looking for advice not sure if anyone can help first time joining a forum like this.
So my story is I go to the pub nightclub quite often I had a girlfriend she was Aussie same as me we broke up because I gambled all the time and wouldn't give up my ways I am happy I did as I ended up meeting these Japanese girls mayumi and megumi they both enjoy going out a lot and gambling usually they watch me.
I finally thought I met girls who I could hangout with and have fun as time went by we start trusting each other more it was good as I enjoyed dancing with two woman at the same time.
So after a few months where we became more physical with each other and even kissing sometimes I thought I was so lucky now these girls I think have met other guys at some stage not sure. I never wanted or expected anything just to dance and have fun.
One night three of us got very drunk and I kissed both girls at the same time while I had my hands on there bums we ended up having a threesome that night the girls said they wanted to do this as a experience with a boy who they thought would be nice and enjoy.
The problem is even though this was the best experience In my life and I was never expecting to do this especially with Japanese girls who are very conservative and I think never would do anything like this. I cannot get in touch with them when I asked them at nightclub mayumi said we just have fun and I was so upset when I saw them both dancing with some guy together feel so alone please help me.
I am also feeling depressed because I would rather have them as friends then having a threesome but they not listen to me.
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April 8, 2016 at 8:46 am
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Relationship without kissing
What would have you thought if I said that I don't like kissing at all?
Will you be meeting with me?
Could you imagine sex without kissing?
The deal is that I squeamish and not a little bit. It began since my childhood. I had hated kissing with my relatives, eating the same thing after others were ate it. And I still hate such things now.
Have you such relations (like it was described above) now?
And if you have, how long you would have agreed live that way?
Is there anyone here like me?
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March 31, 2016 at 4:14 pm
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I’m a virgin, please help?
I know alot about things people don't but I don't have any experiance in these sexual actions, can someone who lives in either Springfield Missouri or North Richland Hills Texas help me? or we could talk on Skype too, I'm a nice guy so I'm not asking for anything in return, well except help in losing virginity...my Skype is "JTAC005"
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February 21, 2016 at 9:59 am
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why does life hurt so much :(
All other people are out enjoying summer, going every day on pool or sea and i am all the summer again in my room, like every year. I cant go nowhere, because i have no friends. I am not equal to others, because i didnt have all those things in past (vacations with friends, swimming in pool or sea, trips, sex, friends) that for others are normal. How can i live with this? It hurts too much... And now i cant be on the level of others anymore... people dont realize how happy they can be for all those things they had in youth. I had nothing.
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February 17, 2016 at 4:30 am
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About This Sex Toy
My girl friend and I are in different places right now. And I saw a cool vibrato today. It is called smart lover which is a crowdfunding on Indiegogo. It can be long-range controlled. So I would like to get one for her haha. I wonder if girls like it. Wish she won't get mad = =
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January 19, 2016 at 9:55 am
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Virginity questions
Hello to everyone. I need a little honest and sound advise.
A little bit about me.
I am 46, and yep a virgin. I have had limited sexual experience. I have had 5 opportunities to lose my virginity but could not. I was very nervous.
I grew up very overweight, with extreme abusive parents, negative religious views, crippling views of women and as a result, very shy.
I have lost a lot of weight and almost normal looking. I am male and average looking. I have come a long way in the last year.
I can ask girls on dates and that is fairly easy. I am terrified of sex. I have tons of hang ups. Virginity the main one, it is a huge source of shame and a huge cross. I feel condemned by this fact.
My question is this. Is it too late for me to find a girl friend who I being a virgin will not care about that?
And if so, how do I bring that up in conversation? I can not tell you how distressing this is to me.
Please be helpful without smart ass remarks and please don't say things like ohh you will find her one day, remember I'm 46 and that one day is coming very close to being over. So please be real and honest.
Thank you to all that would answer.
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January 19, 2016 at 9:49 am
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Advice need on sexuality and such [username]…
I am a 27yr old straight Male. I have a had a couple ofrelationships in the past but have been single for over two years now
I recently went on a night out with friends and we were all very drunk and we all ended up back in my place.
I eventually went to bed and my Male (gay) friend followed me into bed (This is a usual occurrence, me and friends would always sleep in same beds together)
So this time he started to touch me and i didnt stop him i just wait till he finished me and then went to sleep.
A few weeks later the same thing happened.
I never have had sexual fantasies about men or ever been interested in men and dont consider myself gay i am just incredibly horny and love getting off so that is why i dont stop him. We just act like nothing has happened and there is no weirdness between us which is good but im just curious to see if you think this is ok/normal
If it is a reoccurring thing and i dont stop it what does that mean?
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January 18, 2016 at 6:02 pm
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Threesome
So my wife and I decide to have a 3some. So yesterday we met a hot sales lady thats to both our liking.
So how do we approach her with this request?
Do we text her? Call her? See her face to face?
Dont want to scare her off by asking it straight up?
Any suggestions?
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December 4, 2015 at 12:42 am
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34 Y/O wife, chatting, leads to more
Hi,
I'm a 34 year old wife, i have been married for 10 years. Last year my husband talked me into chatting with other men online. It was for fun and to add some spice to our bed time. About 5 months ago i started chatting with a gentleman that is 54. It is turning into much more and my husband is telling me to go along with it.
I'm not sure i should be doing this?
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August 27, 2015 at 10:28 pm
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HELLO
Hi if there are any females that are willing to give genuine advice and actually be serious and not just come
on the post and be like weird yeah weird 2 you maybe but to me it's not and what if you like licking toes that's weird to me but I still wouldn't say anything I would give your advice and just think it all I need is a genuine female to give a bit of advice
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July 23, 2015 at 8:01 pm
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I want to cheat so bad!
Ok, I'll go straight to it. My girlfriend is the best thing that has happened to me and she is the most beautiful girl in the world to me. Ive done everything since the day I met her to make her happy. Im there when she wants to talk (though I hate it), Im there when she cries (though I hate it) etc etc. Ive ditched my friends so many times that I could spend time with her.
I have one problem and that is the sex. She is the worst in the bed. So slow, so boring. She cant grind, or suck or do anything. And whenever I try to pick her up and take control, she always asks me to do it slow, very slow, veeeeeeery slow. Its like having sex with a dying grandmother in a young body. I havent had good sex in months.
Recently Ive reconnected (through friends) with an old girlfriend/fuckfriend. Now she is one crazy girl! Not that Ive had that many, but she is definitely the best girl Ive had sex with. She has gone balls deep sucking me. She's just so naughty and dirty in bed. We ended up talking during a party, and she was trying to seduce me, hinting to us having sex again. We've been chatting since. I just want to meet her and fuck her damn brains out and just let go of months of sexual frustration.
But then again, I dont want to be that stereotypical asshole cheater that everyone hates. Ive never thought of myself as that type of guy. And I couldnt ever look my gf in the eyes after that. Im too much of a dumb, bad actor to act as though nothing has happened.
I guess Im looking for advice on how to cheat without gettin caught and without suffering from bad conscience, lol. Cuz I know I will do it sooner or later.
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