I have been seeing a man for the last 4 months and I really thought that he could be the one. Before we started dating we talked about what we want in a relationship and I told him that swinging and play parties were a big party of my sexuality and my perfect relationship would incorporate that. He agreed he felt the same and about a week later we started dating.
At this point I said I know we’d talked about swinging and stuff but it was important to build up trust and a connection to each other before we started to play. Once again he agreed with me and we started on what had got to be the best relationship of my life.
Now here’s the sticky bit…
Two nights ago the topic of swinging came up and it came out that it’s not really his thing and not an option for us. I was shocked and didn’t really know what to say so I left it alone cos fights on Valentine’s Day are to be avoided and would spoil our otherwise perfect evening.
Now I’m feeling as if I was tricked into being in a relationship with him because he lied about his preferences to keep me happy. I don’t know if giving up that part of myself is something I can do but the thought of losing the man is just as terrifying. I’m REALLY stuck.
Any advice would be greatly appreciated
xx
