Friends… Really JUST friends?
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April 13, 2011 at 11:21 pm #718832Anonymous
We get brainwashed from we understand that it is differnce between a boy and a girl that sex and private parts are sumtin dirty…I have been married for five years, and one long time relation…I stopped long time a go to belive in the brainwash, love and sex is the same but different sex aint wrong in my world but if you start a life together with some one you need to set the priorities right, its not wrong to have sex with another person but it have to be mutual rights and if it goes so far that you start plans that do not include your partner then its sumting wrong in my world, but I have friends whos sexlife together do not exisit but they do it with others, but they say they love each other deeply, and whom am i to judge them…its the dilemae you want one person and only that one beside you when lay on your deathbed…but at the same time you have lust for them many…I am still not sure if you can get both….and I think I leave it with that…fuck if you want and things just say go for it…there are too many beautiful people out there to say no to them allMay 17, 2011 at 5:22 am #718833Anonymous
steath B52 i realy like your thinking and i appreciate uJune 7, 2011 at 10:03 pm #718897
I’m a bit drunk so excuse me, but I’ve thought about this briefly before, as all my friends have been male. I grew up with guys, and though I’ve experienced a lot of beepy experiences with guys, I still feel more comfortable with them. However, I’ve lost a good few male friends because although they wanted to be in my life, they had strong feelings for me, and I couldn’t reciprocate, so they left.
I think any human, regardless of sex, can understand unrequited feelings. I’ve been in a relationship for X number of years where the feelings are not returned, and I can understand the emotional detriment. I think we need to stop seeing ourselves as so extremely different, because beyond all the biology, we are of the same stuff, and if you’ve ever loved someone but they didn’t return the feelings, you would have wanted to migrate. Really, male and female are more alike than societal views allow.
The way I “like” to think about it is, we are special people to have men who feel so partial to us. I’ve been alone for a while, but I often have guys in my life, so I’m grateful.
I often wonder about Testosterone…we as females produce a little, but imagine being a guy with such strong affable, perhaps sexual feelings. Difficult to seperate from a friendship. Not an excuse, just trying to give a lil’ perspective. There probably is a lot of loyalty there though. Perhaps a good idea to ask your guy friends? hehe.
You’re obv a hot gal! 😉June 8, 2011 at 10:56 am #718898
Jeez-ignore the above musings. Completely incoherent! Apologies!
Will add in a more sensible fashion at a later date…doh!June 8, 2011 at 1:32 pm #718834Anonymous
ehh… lolJune 9, 2011 at 3:15 pm #718899
i’m a male,and i’ve got some friend from the oposit sex and i haven’t got any relationship beside frinship:PSeptember 1, 2011 at 9:11 pm #718896
Yeah i’m a Guy. Ive got Female friends who are are just friends =] But then Some of them are hot.. And it came down to it yeah i probs would… XDDecember 30, 2013 at 10:22 am #718900
In between male and female their is sexual attraction. Anyone can say their is nothing between them they feel hesitation to say that they love each other. But I don’t think this issue happen with only men they same issue arise with women.November 29, 2014 at 5:19 pm #718901
You are not lost, love.
Male and Female and can be friend! I am a 20 year old dude who has a small number of female friends. And the best part is that, one of them is my best friend. I have never had any sort of sexual attraction toward them, mainly because I don’t want to jeopardize what I have with them. 🙂
It’s only the guys you are around, I suppose. Respect matters. 🙂May 17, 2015 at 6:33 pm #718908
There ain’t any such things as good friends or bad friends – Mabe there are just friends. Male or female, people who stand by you when your hurt and who help you feel not so lonely. Maybe there always worth being scared for, and hoping for, and living for. Maybe worth dying for, too, if that’s what has to be. No good friends. No bad friends. Only people you want, need to be with; people who build their houses in your heart.July 8, 2015 at 9:06 am #718909
I have a lot of male friends and they are very supportive and understand me. The great thing is that i feel myself very comfortable and there is no need to be nice dressed and with makeup. But if you had some sexual relationships with a man he would not be just a friend for you anymore…
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