This issue has been bothering me forever and I need to hear somebody else’s point of view. I am 18 years old and I have been with my girlfriend since September 2010. I love her so much and we get along beautifully however there is one thing that bothers me. We have been together for 5 years and I just can’t help but feel that she does not feel a sexual attraction towards me. At first I just thought it was trust that I needed to gain but as the years went by its impossible to ignore it. I have brought up my feeling about it and she says that she wants to have sex too but her answer is always “soon”, I’ve been hearing this excuse for about 2 years now. She claims that she is just very fearful of getting pregnant and that is understandable but if yo
u love somebody a lot wouldn’t it be hard to not feel a sexual attraction towards them ? For example her father was not fond of her having a bf at first but she risked staying with me because she loves me right ? So wouldn’t that same love kick in and let her risk having sex with me ? It depresses me so much and I love this woman so much that I wouldn’t dare go seek sex somewhere else , especially since I am a virgin. Although she says its because of her fear of pregnancy I can’t shake the feeling that she is simply not sexually attracted to me. I looked up a few articles in sexual deprivation and its effects and I showed her these articles and told her how sad it made me feel.
I really thought things were gonna change , I thought she understood how it was effecting me , but there was no change at all. I can’t shake the feeling that something is wrong with me. And when I say no sex I mean NOTHING sexual. I have seen her breasts and that is all , we often mess around in my bed but when I try to make sexual advances she pulls my hands off.
It makes me more depressed because I hear my friends talking about all of their sexual experiences with multiple females that they just kick to the curb afterwards and its so hard to believe that its easier for them to have sex with random girls , and I can’t have sex with my own girlfriend of five years. I would just really like to hear somebody’s opinion on what is going on here , I know I wrote quite a bit but I’ve been keeping this to myself all these years and I need answers, help?
