Party Vibe

@jonny.kakadeh 585914 wrote:

First of all let point out that i had a rough and lonely child hood(anti social)… and now would like to change.

Ok, heres the deal, i work in a shoes store(my first ‘public’ job), and every chick(and unfortunately some guys too) who comes in gives me signals, or sub communicate (what i believe) that they want sex, and they always assume i know exactly what they are talking about, it took me a while to figure out though. what they would do is, say stuff like they want size 9 (shoes) with emphasis on 9 or they’l keep fake(obviously) coughing or play with their hair and fix pants whenever i look in their direction. I know this ll means they want sex, but what should be my approach or moves when ever i get these signals?

also when ever i give them the shoes they always look inside the box hoping i put something in there, and always look disappointed whenever they dont see what they were looking for, and they’l always act super secretive about it. like as i step out with shoe they’l quickly walk up o look inside, sometimes widening their eyes as they ask ‘is the size (or shoe)”?

what s it they are looking for?

Hate to break it to you mate but I’m thinking your slightly disillusioned or at least greatly exaggerating the truth. EVERY chick, and some guys, you sure about that? Is it not more likely that you’re just sexually frustrated and looking for signals that are not there, or reading too much into body language. I think you may need to readjust the way you read situations before considering making a move yourself. Probably not what you wanted to hear, but I’m just being honest with what little information I have.

@jonny.kakadeh 586018 wrote:

Delusional, i highly doubt it considering how many signs are usually sub communicated, and they all seem universal as most people do the same…. most of them even abuse these signs to the point were it becomes obvious. Even doing it at inappropriate times making them even obvious, and coming ff slighty desperate.
Like this chick picks up a random shoe and goes ‘this shoes is cuute, too cute…aint it ?” to her friend. her friend replys ”yeah very nice!!” then she sends me to get a shoe for her, i bring it up, she quickly moves in to take a look at the shoe but positioning her self where shes blocking my boss’ view, looks inside the box but barely looking at the shoe digging into the box as if to look at the second foot, but digging up everything while in the process, all with a sadden look on her face. She then tells me she doesnt want that shoe and she’l look for another, but assures me the shoe is very cute. after a few minutes of looking again she finally decides again, i get the shoe she looks in, with a disappointed look again, but takes it this time. And before leaving picks up another random(i say random because theirs really nothing special about the shoe and its a completely different shoe)shoe and goes ‘this is so beautiful!!’ (while widening her eye, its kinda hard to describe it but its a very ackward look), ”beautiful, isnt it just beautiful?” the freind replys, ”yes VERY pretty!’. Then while walking out keeps looking through the corner of her eyes in the direction i’m standing.

Thats pretty much how every hour of my day is there…except sometimes the signs are more vague in that they just constantly licking their lips or just fold them as though theyre about to hum something, whenever i look in their direction.

And if thats not obvious enough for you, then theres the fact that none of them (and some men unfortunately) can look me in the eyes properly without breathing hard or their eyes bulge and they look away. They literally always seem to avoid eye contact. like if they want to look at something close to my direction, they ‘quickly’ spin their heads pass me to look(while still bulging their eyes a bit), which comes off really weird, but at the same time slightly amusing…they also walk crooked sometime while their eyes bulge.

sexually frustrated, nah, i’m half (or 3/4) asexual, in that sex rarely ever enters my mind, and i’m very easily tuned off, which has pretty much been the cause of all my brake ups, i’ve actually never made it past a month with a chick, usually after sex one time i loose interest and never call them, then again i’m anti social.

What you described there buddy, just sounds like a typical ‘woman entering shoe shop’ scenario. Let’s look at it this way, if I was out with my girlfriend and she exhibited such behaviour to a clerk in a shoe store; would I become distressed or suspicious? No. From what I’m seeing; either she wants to have sex with EVERY shoe store clerk she meets, or she just gets excited around shoes. I mean, you can’t rule out the possibility that a few of the people entering your store would have sex with you. Given any situation there’s always somebody thinking of sex whether it’s appropriate or not.

Also ask yourself, why? Why have they come to your shoe store to try and pick someone up for sex? Why not go through Tinder or whatever other discreet modern ways there are to meet people, much more direct routes than going into a store; hoping the staff notice your signals, are interested, physically able to do it (unlikely if they have colleagues in the store) and aren’t just total munters.

This is rather a personal question, and tell me to piss off if you want, but do you fit within the boundaries of the Autistic spectrum?

I believe either one of two things. Either you are very good looking and your self confessed asexuality makes you all the more appealing or you are delusional and reading things that are simply not there.

Take it as a compliment. If you wanna pull women, don’t do it at work.