I can relate to this entirely my friend. I am 26 and my girlfriend is 44; that’s an 18 year age gap. We’ve been together a little over three and a half years, and love each other very much, in fact she is my first true love. I genuinely can see myself spending the rest of my life with this woman despite the age gap. Although I can’t say it doesn’t cross my mind occasionally that someday due to the age gap I may have to essentially be her carer. And yeah that scares me a bit but I love her dearly and when you love someone you go through the good times and bad times with them.
If you do want this relationship to work then you will likely have to find a compromise between her conflicting ‘right choices’ as you put, by which I think you mean her choices and intended direction in life, and what direction you want to take in life. At the moment you are still young and perhaps uncertain of what you want from life, probably just wanting some more fun in your youth before having to take life a bit more serious. But as you’ve acknowledged she’s already at that age where she to start making these ‘right choices’.
Nobody knows what it will be be like in 10 years; assuming you last that long. But better to find out rather than be left thinking what if for the rest of your life if you do feel that strongly for her.
